Looking back, I don’t think I lost myself all at once. I think I left myself in tiny, almost invisible ways. Every time, I ignored what I knew. Every time I explained away something that hurt. Every time I chose to preserve the relationship over myself. I used to think boundaries were mostly about saying no. No to behaviors. No to disrespect. No to situations and people that cause pain. What I understand now is that boundaries have very little to do with saying no to